Words that Stimulate or Dampen Our Desire for God

“Most people go through their entire life never speaking words to another human being that come out of what is deepest within them, and most people never hear words that reach all the way into that deep place we call the soul” (13). This is the burden that Larry Crabb seeks to address in Soul Talk: The Language God Longs for Us To Speak. He argues that “Every conversation either stimulates or dampens our desire for God” (26). As a result, in Soul Talk he seeks to address the question: “How can conversations between followers of Jesus become a stage on which the supernatural power of God is unmistakably displayed” (29)?

Crabb worries that “We live in a day when the life that God has given to every Jesus follower is counterfeited, contrived, neglected, hidden, unreleased, and generally not believed in” (43). Crabb further laments that “most of us are never known by a safe friend, never explored by a curious friend, and never discovered by a hopeful friend. And that is a tragedy, as harmful to the soul as AIDS is to the body. Hearts are not changed. Or hearts that have been changed by the Spirit at conversion to Christ are not released” (56).

Later, Crabb argues that if Jesus were speaking directly to our culture today he would say that we have “a heart problem. My people want something more than they want me. And it’s ruining them… Learn to speak with power into people’s lives. Arouse their desire for me until their thirst for me consumes them” (60).

If it seems that I am just listing off a string of quotes, I guess in some ways I am. Honestly, I am trying to force myself to slow down as I read this book to work to process some of it more deeply. I think I have experienced the kind of edifying conversation that Crabb yearns for believers to experience. I have felt times where I was burdened to say something to someone when we were talking – but it wasn’t about me. I really felt that the Spirit was prompting me to speak into someone else’s life.

These kinds of experiences are hard to articulate or explain in hindsight. In some ways, rereading what I just wrote, I feel like it sounds too mystical or otherworldly. Really, it is just a feeling of being in the presence of God. Peace and joy are the two words that come to mind.

These experiences are profound and sometimes life changing. If nothing else, when our hearts connect with another believer at a deep level, we are encouraged to focus on God and what God is seeking to do in our lives. And yet, I think Crabb is largely right- I am not sure very many Christians experience this level of “watching over one another in love”. I don’t know why. It may be that some people want to, but genuinely don’t know how. Or it may be that others are afraid that if anyone else really knew them, that they would leave or reject them.

I am afraid I may be putting too much hope in this book, because I am really hoping that it will help me to lead others into this kind of conversation. From my experience, I would say that when you can really open yourself up to a brother or sister in Christ in the presence of the Holy Spirit, those are holy moments where God’s gracious, healing, and restoring presence is especially tangible. I believe what Crabb refers to as “Soul Talk” is a major way that God’s Spirit renews people in the image that they were created in and enables them to grow in holiness.

Does this arouse a passion in you? What questions, issues, or other thoughts do you have? Have you read this book or had experience with deep Christian conversation? I would love to hear your thoughts and dialogue more about this.

Libby Myrin posts at Swerve

Check out Libby Myrin’s guest blog entry at Swerve.LifeChurch.tv.

Libby is a dear friend who was the maid of honor in Melissa and I’s wedding. She also threatened to hurt me at the rehearsal dinner if I didn’t take good care of Melissa. That is what best friends are for, and those are words I have never forgotten. I mean, I still wake up in a sweat in the middle of the night sometimes…

Libby writes about the importance of taking life and our walk with God one day at a time. She encourages us to focus on today and be faithful in what matters most. Check our her post and say hello.

Superficial, Deeply Numbing Churches?

I recently picked up a copy of Larry Crabb’s Soul Talk: The Language God Longs for Us To Speak. On the fourth page of the first chapter Crabb unleashes this wake-up call: “Churches, by no means all but too many, have become as dangerous to the health of our soul as porn shops. People leave both superficially titillated and deeply numbed” (16).

Ouch. But is he right? I hope and pray that this description would not fit for my congregation. But I am afraid that far too often we settle for forming people to something that is far short of the kind of relationship that God wants us to have with Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, as well as with each other. Since seminary, I have found an increasing longing to be a force for renewal within the church and over the last few years I have come to sense that one of the ways the Spirit is working to spark such a revival is through helping people enter into deeper community with one another. Wesley beautifully described what I have in mind as “watching over one another in love.”

In the Introduction to Soul Talk, Crabb writes, “We can learn to talk with each other in ways that arouse our passion for God until it becomes the most powerful desire in our soul. How that can happen, and what needs to happen in you and me as we speak into each other’s lives, is what this book is all about” (9). I sense a real need for learning how to talk to each other about the things that really matter. I am definitely interested to see what Crabb has to say.

Going All the Way by Craig Groeschel, a Review

Going All the Way - Craig Groeschel

Going All the Way: preparing for a marriage that goes the distance is an ambitious book. It is ambitious primarily because it seeks to say something that hasn’t already been said about dating and marriage from a Christian perspective. If any one could succeed in such an audacious task, it would be Craig Groeschel, who is the founding pastor of LifeChurch.tv, which has become a multi-site congregation that sees more than 20, 000 in worship at its combined weekly worship services. Groeschel is an innovator who has done some amazing things that have been noticed by the church at large. He is also one of the authors of LifeChurch.tv’s blog Swerve.

One of the requirements of a pastor who has witnessed and facilitated such dramatic growth is that he or she be an excellent, gifted communicator. In Going All the Way, Groeschel does not disappoint as he gets his point across through anecdotes that often can’t help but make you smile. He also effectively uses self-deprecating humor. Most importantly, he keeps his eyes on the “Christian” content of the book. In other words, he is mostly successful in avoiding the temptation to moralize or make commonsense statements that are not really connected to specific Christian content. He clearly encourages the reader to see their relationship with God to be the one relationship that will complete them, rather than seeking to find it in another person. According to Groeschel, it is only after we first are connected to God, that we can hope to succeed in finding our two, or the person that we hope to spend the rest of our lives with.

This book commends itself because it is very readable. After finishing one chapter, I typically wanted to keep going into the next chapter. I found myself sometimes laughing out lout, sometimes scratching my head, and I even found myself motivated to examining my marriage again to make sure that I am doing all that I can to love Melissa as I am called to love her. In short, the book was an interesting read, it made me think, and it reminded me to practice some things that I already knew.

My main criticism of the book would be that I felt that as the book went on it lost some of its momentum. In the first few chapters Groeschel was witty, sometimes even hillarious. He may have been repeating largely familiar arguments, but the way it was written was fresh and engaging. As the book continued, it felt as if Groseschel may have lost some of his enthusiasm for the project. That is purely speculation, but some of the later chapters lacked the freshness and creativity of the first several. The two main examples of this for me were the chapters “Thinking Differently About Husbands” and “Thinking Differently About Wives.” After the much of the originality and humor I had enjoyed that served to highlight the truth, in these two chapters he seemed to basically just restate the predictable male role of spiritual leader and female role of submission. For example on page 170 Groeschel writes, “Honestly, most teaching on submission makes me cringe.” But then the rest of the chapter essentially reiterates that very teaching on submission. What would make a woman feel any more comfortable with his articulation of a woman’s duty to submit?

One notable exception was a terrific biblical illustration that Groeschel uses. In Chapter 8 “Your Story Starts Again” Groeschel is discussing how to deal with past mistakes and sins. He closes the chapter by looking at “Two men who committed basically the same horrible sin – betraying Jesus” (111). The two men are Judas and Peter. He reminds us that Judas saw no hope and equated what he had done with who he was, and so he took his own life. Peter, on the other hand, after denying Jesus three times, met Jesus face to face and received forgiveness and further spiritual empowerment. Two men who denied Jesus, with two very different results.

Ultimately, since the main purpose of the book is to help people to prepare “for a marriage that goes the distance” it should be judged above all else on whether it succeeds in this task. My hope and prayer is that it will.

Coming Soon: A Review of Going All the Way

I have to be honest, I forgot that I even requested a copy of this book to review. Nevertheless, it seems fitting that I received a copy of Going All The Way by Craig Groeschel on the same day that I sent a shout out to him.

Every time I get a new book, I can’t help but start reading it. Call it compulsion, or whatever you will- but I had to sit down and read the first chapter… and so far so good.

Here is a paragraph that makes me want to keep reading:

Let me warn you: this book may require a radical shift in your thinking. If small changes would do the trick, everyone would be making them. Minor adjustments produce marginal results. Most of us need to overhaul our thought processes. To experience the kind of relationships we long for, we must, with God’s help, prepare to be genuinely different.

I am interested to see where he takes me. I will be posting my thoughts about the book after I am finished reading it.

Friday Shout Out to Craig Groeschel

Friday shout out is 1 for 3 in its infancy. But we are going to keep at it! Today’s Friday Shout Out goes out to Craig Groeschel, senior pastor of LifeChurch.tv a multi-campus church that began in Oklahoma and is now growing into other parts of the country. Craig is not afraid to take risks in order to do a new thing in the name of the Lord.

As a reminder, here is how this works: Craig, if you find this post, you are invited to shout back! It is really that simple. I would be particularly interested, if you have the time or inclination, to get your thoughts on how the church can encourage the development of meaningful community and “watching over one another in love” through things like small group accountability. Is there anything you have seen work particularly well, or anything that you have found to be an inhibitor to developing intimacy and walking with other Christians in our faith? (You don’t have to answer this question, how you shout back is entirely up to you.)

Ok, the mic is yours…

Who Is Your Master? Who Are You Pledging Allegiance To?

Last Sunday I preached a sermon on Matthew 6:19-24. In working on the sermon I wrestled with the reality that American Christians seem to often struggle with divided hearts. We do claim Jesus Christ as our Lord and savior, but we also seem to find more meaning in the things of this world. Many Christians seem to put their hope not in God, but in the United States of America. But we are confronted in Matthew 6 with the words of Jesus Christ, “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money.” The entire sermon follows below, if you are interested in reading it.

David Robinson was one of the best to ever put on a San Antonio Spurs basketball jersey. When he was playing at his best, he could take over a game. But he was not great just because of his basketball ability. He also had an amazing ability to keep things in perspective and avoid many of the traditional traps that NBA players often fall into. For instance, David Robinson was once interviewed and asked about the perception that he was sometimes rude to fans who were women. When asked why he was sometimes fairly blunt with other women his response was if a woman is going to offended by my behavior, it is not going to be my wife. So if I think that a woman is hitting on me, I will say so and make sure that she understands that I am not interested.

David Robinson’s heart was not divided, he loved his wife and he protected his relationship with her even when she wasn’t around. None of us may be an NBA All-Star or a celebrity, but nearly all of us will face the struggle to maintain a heart that is undivided. One of the primary reasons that many marriages are breaking up like never before is because people’s hearts are divided. We want to have companionship, we don’t want to be alone and so we get married. But we also want to be successful in our jobs, we want to have the right car, the right house, and so we are pulled in different directions. This causes many people to come to the conclusion that their lives are just going in different directions, as one Christian leader recently used as the explanation for why he and his wife were getting a divorce.

And our hearts are not just divided when it comes to relationships. It may be that more people in America are living divided lives than at any other place at any other time in history. This way of existing has not only become common, but it has become socially acceptable, even respected. Someone who is doing more than he or she can possibly do well, is often complimented because they are doing so much or they are such a hard worker. We are also constantly assaulted by the consumer culture that we live in with messages that we need this new gadget, or these new clothes, or that new car, or a better body, better (or more) hair, whatever it is we are constantly assaulted with the message that whatever we have, no matter how much it is, is not enough. So that if and when we drag our worn out, weary selves to the Scriptures, when we come to a chapter like this one, we can only sigh… and think about how great it would be if it were actually possible to live an undivided life. This Scripture passage seems to suggest not only that it is possible to live an undivided life, but that it is actually commanded in an important sense. The very first commandment of the Ten Commandments is, after all, “You shall have no other God’s before me.” But some will say, life is just different than it was in Jesus’ day, or in the time of Moses. Is it even possible to hope or expect to love and serve God with an undivided heart?

This past July Melissa and I went on vacation to New York City. A primary purpose of the trip was to watch a baseball game in Yankee Stadium before it is torn down at the end of next season. But one of the most lasting memories I have of the trip was a night that Melissa and I were exploring Times Square. Times Square is filled with neon lights, tv screens and building sized advertisements. There are people everywhere.

Melissa and I had dinner one evening in Times Square at a table that looked out on one of the busiest streets. There happened to be a hot dog vendor who set up his cart right outside of where we were eating. I was amazed when he deliberately pulled a rug out from somewhere in his cart, unrolled it, and kneeled down on the street next to his cart and began to go through what looked like a typical Muslim prayer ritual. Now, obviously this man was not a Christian, but he was actively practicing his faith in the midst of all the distraction and business around him. It seemed to serve as an important reminder to him of who he was. It made me wonder why more Christians don’t take practicing their faith as seriously as this man does.

As we walked back to our hotel this evening I wondered if the popular idea that this is a Christian nation might actually make it harder to be a faithful Christian, because there is this feeling that Christians aren’t different, they are just good Americans. And the more I have thought about it, the more concerned I have become that for many American Christians being a faithful Christian is the same thing as being a good American.

But you don’t have to look very far, or very hard, to realize that there are many many things that are happening in this country that are not consistent with the faith that Christians proclaim. And the worst part is that those same things are becoming more and more a part of the church. Ron Sider, for example, likes to point out that divorce has become more and more common in America over the last few decades, and at the same time it has become a more and more common practice among Christians at almost exactly the same rate that it has increased among the general population! Sider also points out that Christians tend to be just as racist as their non-Christian neighbors, they tend to give about the same amount of their money away as their non-Christian neighbors, and they even tend to abuse their spouses and children at the same rate as non-Christians. In far too many instances, when you look at the relationship between the Unites States and the Christian Church, it seems that it is American culture that is having an impact on the church, much more so than the church having an impact on the culture.

Even when we are in church and we pray, often times our prayer requests sound a lot more like America’s prayer list, than Jesus’ prayer list. We too often pray for the things that George Bush would have us pray for, instead of the things that Jesus tells us to pray for. For instance, I recently have noticed how often we lift up American soldiers for prayer. This is understandably on many of our minds, especially with so many Oklahomans recently being deployed. But do you know that I have never once heard an American Christian ask that we pray not for a certain nation’s success in war, but instead that we pray for peace? This should be deeply disturbing to us, because Jesus, after all, never told us to pray for US troops, but he did say “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” And even more radically, he said, “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven.”

This is very clear and surprisingly straightforward, yet we don’t seem to take it all that seriously. It is much more natural for us to pray for our national loyalties, than it is to pray out of an expression of our loyalty to Christ. It is a scandal to the Body of Chris, when American Christians express more loyalty towards people who despise Christian faith and openly live lives that fundamentally opposed to the teaching of Christ, just because they happen to be American than they do people who are their brothers and sisters in Christ who happen to live in countries like Iraq or Iran. How can we justify this? How can we defend this in light of passages of Scripture like Galatians 3:28 “There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, neither male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” And yet, we express more kinship to our “fellow Americans” than we do to our fellow Christians.

It seems to me that one of the deepest struggles of Christians living in America is that our hearts are divided. We cannot decide if we love God or Lady Liberty. We cannot decide if our primary citizenship is in the Kingdom of God, or the United States of America. We cannot decide which truth we hold to be more self evident that all have an inalienable right to the pursuit of happiness, or that “Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners – of whom I am the worst.” But the Scriptures suggest that we must decide, for “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other.”

I yearn for the day when the church is filled with Christians who are willing to sell out for their faith, who are willing to turn away from anything that divides their loyalty and follow Jesus. It seems that there are many people in America today who have genuinely had an experience of God’s love in their life. In a recent study, depending on how the question was worded, 25-45 % of Americans reported that they see themselves as Born-Again Christians. That is 75 to 135 million people! Just think what that amount of people could do if they were deeply committed to their faith!

And so, we come back to a few key questions about the meaning and purpose of life. Is God real? Was Jesus incarnate as fully God and fully man? Did he die so that we might live? Was he resurrected on the third day? Does he continue to seek to draw us into relationship with him? As we think about these questions, can we continue to say that we have faith that Jesus is who the Scriptures say that he is? If we can, is seems that this faith has to change our lives, it should be the very foundation of all that we do, or don’t do. If God has entered fully into human life so that we can experience salvation and have relationship with him, this is something that must inform every decision that we make. It must become the lens through which we interpret everything else in life.

Now, we may not always succeed in doing this, I know that I have fallen on my face much more than I care to admit even to myself. But, it still must be the most basic part of any Christian’s identity. We are God’s children. In Christ, we have become God’s sons and daughters. And if Christianity is true, I don’t see how anything else could be more important than this. I don’t see how anything else could play a more important role in our lives. Frankly, being an American is meaningless compared to being a Christian! Now don’t get me wrong, I consider it a blessing to have been born in this country. I have been given so many opportunities because of the country that I have been born into. But I have found meaning in life not through my citizenship in the United States of America, but through my claim to be an heir of the kingdom that Christ has already inaugurated. And so, I can say with the Apostle Paul, “But whatever were gains to me I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ and be found in him.”

And if it seems to you that I being overly melodramatic, we might want to remember that Paul was a citizen of an empire, very similar in his day to the United States. He was a Roman citizen. He was entitled to a great many privileges because of his Roman citizenship. So he probably had a pretty good idea of what is at stake for us when we consider placing our loyalty to Christ above all else. He is basically saying he considers his Roman citizenship garbage in order to gain Christ and be found in Christ. Paul ultimately laid down his life in order to gain Christ. This was the ultimate act of renouncing the Roman way of life. Are you willing to consider your US citizenship as garbage in order to gain Christ? Are you willing to pledge allegiance to the Kingdom of God and follow the way of living of this kingdom with out turning back?

For those who make such a commitment, they find that it is hard. In fact, living in this country where we are tempted and lured away from our faith commitments in so many subtle and not so subtle ways, it is impossible to do this on our own. So, like Jesus’ disciples said after Jesus talked about the rich and the kingdom of God, we might ask, “Who then can be saved?” Jesus still answers, “With human beings this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

Normally when the passage I read at the beginning of this sermon is preached on, the message focuses primarily on our relationship to money. And that is certainly what this story is about. However, this morning I believe we can also see that there is more at stake in having a heart that is undivided than just money. Christians still hear their Lord preaching to them in the Sermon on the Mount “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

This morning, where is your treasure? Where is your heart? Committing your life fully to the Gospel of Jesus Christ may seem right now like only an impossible ideal. But the basic Christian message is one that reminds us that God is in the business of making the impossible possible. God raised Jesus from the dead after three days. If he can do that, how difficult can it be for him to enable you to follow him? To each of us who commit to live fully for the Lord, I believe that we will continue to hear Jesus Christ whisper in our ears, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

It is time to stop living a double life. We must decide where our ultimate loyalty is. No one can serve two masters. Ultimately, we will end up hating or despising one of them. We cannot serve both God and the ways of the world. Will you submit to the Lord and Creator of the universe? Will you let him be the one and only thing that has mastery over you? By God’s grace this is possible for me, and it is possible for you!

Reclaiming the Wesleyan Tradition in the Christian Century.

I am a bit behind on reading my Christian Century subscription, but today I was working on catching up. On page 3 of the October 16, 2007 issue, Upper Room has an advertisment for essential ministry resources. One of the six books pictured in the half page add is, you guessed it, Reclaiming the Wesleyan Tradition: John Wesley’s Sermons for Today. My mouth just dropped open when I saw the picture. Surreal…

I Was Blind, But Now I See

Two weeks ago today I went to the eye doctor for the first time in 5 years. My vision really hadn’t gotten all that much worse, but I had enough of a change in prescription that I was told I should get new glasses. They came in the mail today. I always find it to be an amazing feeling the first time you put on a new pair of glasses. You literally see the world in a different way.

May God grant each of us the grace with which to see the world through the eyes of Jesus Christ, and live based on what we see.