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Where Do You Feel Safe To Share the Journey?

30 Wednesday Jan 2008

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I am reading Robert Wuthnow’s Sharing the Journey: Support Groups and America’s New Quest for Community. It relates to my general interest in small groups and has been a very interesting read so far. I just came across this quote that I wanted to share:

They understand what these feelings are like. They have experienced them too. They don’t tell him he shouldn’t have them, or even try to make them go away. They just share the journey, whether it is one of triumph or of trial. This solidarity, more than anything else, was the reason Frank became involved. (168)

What kind of small group would you guess this was?

Alcoholics Anonymous.

It is interesting that the most powerful story of “sharing the journey” that Wuthnow has shared so far has been the story of someone who is actively involved in AA. In some ways this isn’t surprising because AA has had a wonderful impact on so many people’s lives.

But this made me wonder why the church doesn’t do a better job of just walking with people through their lives. I wonder if many people don’t need the church to try to fix them, but they need to be loved and supported as they journey through life. It strikes me that it is our job to walk with people and do the best that we can to simply point to Jesus along the way. And wouldn’t this be freeing? We don’t have to fix everything, we don’t have to solve every problem. The man in the story above, at least, just needed someone to share his journey with.

Where have you felt safe to share the journey of your life? What do you think the church could do in order to more effectively become a place where people can find support, solidarity, love, and companionship?

The General Rules

24 Thursday Jan 2008

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The Nature, Design, and General Rules of the United Societies
in London, Bristol, Kingswood, and Newcastle upon Tyne
(1743)

1. In the latter end of the year 1739 eight or ten persons came to me in London who appeared to be deeply convinced of sin, and earnestly groaning for redemption. They desired (as did two or three more the next day) that I would spend some time with them in prayer, and advise them how to flee from the wrath to come, which they saw continually hanging over their heads. That we might have more time for this great work I appointed a day when they might all come together, which from thenceforward they did every week, namely, on Thursday, in the evening. To these, and as many more as desired to join them (for their numbers increased daily), I gave those advises from time to time which I judged most needful for them; and we always concluded our meeting with prayer suited to their several necessities.
2. This was the rise of the United Society, first at London, and then in other places. Such a Society is no other than ‘a company of men “having the form, and seeking the power of godliness”, united in order to pray together, to receive the word of exhortation, and to watch over one another in love, that they may help each other to work out their salvation’.
3. That is may the more easily be discerned whether they are indeed working out their own salvation, each Society is divided into smaller companies, called Classes, according to their respective places of abode. There are about twelve persons in every class, one of whom is styled the Leader. It is his business:
(1). To see each person in his class once a week at the least; in order
To receive what they are willing to give toward the relief of the poor;
To inquire how their souls prosper;
To advise, reprove, comfort, or exhort, as occasion may require.
(2). To meet the Minister and the stewards of the Society once a week, in order:
To pay in to the stewards what they have received of their several classes in the week proceeding;
To show their account of what each person has contributed; and
To inform the Minister of any that are sick, or of any that walk disorderly and will not be reproved.
4. There is one only condition previously required in those who desire admission into these societies, ‘a desire to flee from the wrath to come, to be saved from their sins’. But wherever this is really fixed in the soul it will be shown by its fruits. It is therefore expected of all who continue therein that they should continue to evidence their desire of salvation,
First, By doing no harm, by avoiding all evil in every kind — especially that which is most generally practised. Such is:
The taking the name of God in vain.
The profaning the day of the Lord, either by doing ordinary work thereon, or by buying or selling.
Drunkenness, buying or selling spirituous liquors; or drinking them (unless in cases of extreme necessity).
Fighting, quarrelling, brawling; brother ‘going to law’ with brother; returning evil for evil, or railing for railing; the ‘using many words’ in buying or selling.
The buying or selling uncustomed goods.
The giving or taking things on usury.
Uncharitable or unprofitable conversation, especially speaking evil of ministers or those in authority.
Doing to others as we would not they should do unto us.
Doing what we know is not for the glory of God, as,
The ‘putting on of gold or costly apparel’, particularly the wearing of calashes, high-heads, or enormous bonnets;
The taking such diversions as cannot be used in the name of the Lord Jesus,
The singing those songs, or reading those books, which do not tend to the knowledge or love of God;
Softness, and needless self-indulgence;
Laying up treasures upon earth;
Borrowing without a probability of paying: or taking up goods without a probability of paying for them.
5. It is expected of all who continue in these societies that they should continue to evidence their desire of salvation,
Secondly, by doing good, by being in every kind merciful after their power, as they have opportunity doing good of every possible sort and as far as is possible to all men:
To their bodies, of the ability which God giveth, by giving food to the hungry, by clothing the naked, by visiting or helping them that are sick, or in prison.
To their souls, by instructing, reproving, or exhorting all they have any intercourse with; trampling under foot that enthusiastic doctrine of devils, that ‘we are not to do good unless our heart be free to do it.’
By doing good especially to them that are of the household of faith, or groaning so to be; employing them preferably to others, buying one of another, helping each other in business — and that so much the more because the world will love its own, and them only.
By all possible diligence and frugality, that the gospel be not blamed.
By running with patience the race that is set before them; ‘denying themselves, and taking up their cross daily’; submitting to bear the reproach of Christ, to be as the filth and offscouring of the world; and looking that men should ‘say all manner of evil of them falsely, for their Lord’s sake’.
6. It is expected of all who desire to continue in these societies that they should continue to evidence their desire of salvation,
Thirdly, By attending upon all the ordinances of God. Such are:
The public worship of God;
The ministry of the Word, either read or expounded;
The Supper of the Lord;
Family and private prayer;
Searching the Scriptures; and
Fasting, or abstinence.
7. These are the General Rules of our societies; all which we are taught of God to observe, even in his written Word, the only rule, and the sufficient rule, both of our faith and practice. And all these we know his Spirit writes on every truly awakened heart. If there be any among us who observe them not, who habitually break any one of them, let it be made known unto them who watch over that soul, as they that must give account. We will admonish him of the error of his ways. We will bear with him for a season. But if then he repent not, he hath no more place among us. We have delivered our own souls.

John Wesley
Charles Wesley

Reflections on Five Practices of Fruitful Congregations, Part 1

23 Wednesday Jan 2008

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Five Practices of Fruitful Congregations, Hospitality, Schnase

The clergy group that I am a part of met yesterday to begin our discussion of Bishop Schnase’s book Five Practices of Fruitful Congregations. I thought I would try to blog my way through the book the day after our discussion. Here is what I learned from the first chapter on “The Practice of Radical Hospitality.

The first thing I learned from this chapter is that radical hospitality is about loving people as Christ loves them, not about perfecting a technique for making people want to come to your church. What really hit me as I read this chapter is the difference between reaching out because we need new people to come to our church, or reaching out because we really believe that we have something to offer that will bless others.

Because this is a clergy group, I guess I found myself thinking about hospitality as it relates to the way clergy act around each other and the way that clergy treat new comers. I had a few general thoughts in this area:

  1. Some of the most uncomfortable experiences I have had in ministry have been at clergy meetings. It is not that people are rude to me, it is just that I am ignored. I went to seminary in Washington DC, straight out of college. So when I came back to the Oklahoma Conference, I basically knew two pastors and the names of a handful of others. The group I am in now is really helping, but I hated going to Annual Conference and the orders meeting and Board of Ordained Ministry retreats because I didn’t know anyone and I didn’t know how to break into the groups of people that seemed to just form all around me.
  2. This got me thinking about another thing I noticed (maybe this is more of a rant) at our recent orders meeting. We had a catered lunch which was very nice. Lunch was served on throw away plates and plastic ware. There were large trash cans at every exit. Yet, I noticed that when we left most tables had dirty plates all over them. There seemed to just be this assumption that someone will come clean up after me. What got me is that all they had to do was pick up their own plate and put it in the trash can they had to walk by anyway. How’s that for servant leadership?
  3. One more thing about inhospitable pastors: I remember a friend in seminary commenting that pastors (meaning the other seminarians we were around) were the worst listeners she had ever been around. I think she is pretty close to right. Isn’t that ironic? We are supposed to tend to others souls, but much of the time we are too busy talking to listen.
  4. Finally, there is so much talk about the need for young clergy. But, do the people calling out for young clergy ever carefully think about how inhospitable the appointment process is for young clergy? Most people who go to seminary straight from college are full-time students who do not start pastoring until they graduate from seminary. That means that most of them live around younger people, go to a church that has a lot of younger people, and most seminaries are in a large city. Which one of these characteristics is typical of the first appointment that young clergy usually receive? But we are surprised that more young people aren’t lining up to go into ministry. It reminded me of another great quote from Five Practices, “Too many churches want more young people as long as they act like old people” (27).

This may sound shrill or too harsh. That is not my intent. I just think we can do better. My point is, if pastors are to play a leading role in helping their congregations practice radical hospitality, we may need to work on fostering a culture of radical hospitality at the conference level. We may need to learn how to really love and care for one another first. I am blessed to have a wonderful sign of hope in the clergy group I am a part of, because I believe we are really doing that.

Here are two great quotes that really stimulated my thinking for this chapter:

  1. “Jesus says, ‘I was a stranger and you welcomed me’ (Matthew 25:35). ‘Just as you did it to one of the least of these who are members of my family, you did it to me’ (Matthew 25:40). We would change our behaviors toward strangers if we lived as if we really believed this!” (13)
  2. “Every member of the Body of Christ is the fruit of someone’s ministry and faithfulness. Who is the fruit of yours?” (31)

I know whose ministry I am the fruit of: Dallas Griffin, Steve, Shalom Rener, Scott Meier, Phil Fenn, Doug Strong, Scott Kisker, Sondra Wheeler, Amy McCullough, David Evans, David Gilland, to name a few. Thank you to each of you for the role that you have played in my life. I have been blessed by your ministry.

One of the hard things about hospitality is that it is probably much easier to see whose hospitality changed our lives than it is to see whose lives were changed by our hospitality. Are there people whose lives you have been able to see change because of your ministry? Whose ministry are you the fruit of? Have you told them the impact that they had on your life?

Reclaiming the Wesleyan Tradition in the News

21 Monday Jan 2008

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Sarah B. Dorrance, one of the authors of Reclaiming the Wesleyan Tradition: John Wesley’s Sermons for Today, was asked to write an article about her experience in working on the book for the UM Connection, the newspaper of the Baltimore-Washington Conference. You can read Sarah’s article here.

Rules of the Band Societies

21 Monday Jan 2008

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I had a conversation recently with a few people who expressed a desire to enter into a deeper level of accountability and intimacy with fellow Christians. We were talking about the power that can come from “watching over one another in love.” I shared that I had been a part of a Wesleyan band meeting in seminary and that this was one of the most powerful experiences of my life.

In light of that conversation, I thought I would post Wesley’s “Rules of the Band-Societies,” Drawn up December 25, 1738. (This is public domain.) So what follows are the rules:

The design of our meeting is, to obey that command of God, “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed.”

To this end, we intend –

  1. To meet once a week, at the least.
  2. To come punctually at the hour appointed, without some extraordinary reason.
  3. To begin (those of us who are present) exactly at the hour, with singing or prayer.
  4. To speak each of us in order, freely and plainly, the true state of our souls, with the faults we have committed in thought, word, or deed, the temptations we have felt, since our last meeting.
  5. To end every meeting with prayer, suited to the state of each person present.
  6. To desire some person among us to speak his own state first, and then to ask the rest, in order, as many and as searching questions as may be, concerning their state, sins, and temptations.

Some of the questions proposed to every one before he is admitted among us may be to this effect: —

  1. Have you the forgiveness of your sins?
  2. Have you peace with God, through our Lord Jesus Christ?
  3. Have you the witness of God’s Spirit with your spirit, that you are a child of God?
  4. Is the love of God shed abroad in your heart?
  5. Has no sin, inward or outward, dominion over you?
  6. Do you desire to be told of your faults?
  7. Do you desire to be told of all your faults, and that plain and home?
  8. Do you desire that every one of us should tell you, from time to time, whatsoever is in his heart concerning you?
  9. Consider! Do you desire we should tell you whatsoever we think, whatsoever we fear, whatsoever we hear, concerning you?
  10. Do you desire that, in doing this, we should come as close as possible, that we should cut to the quick, and search your heart to the bottom?
  11. Is it your desire and design to be on this, and all other occasions, entirely open, so as to speak everything that is in your heart without exception, without disguise, and without reserve?

Any of the preceding questions may be asked as often as occasion offers; the four following at every meeting: —

  1. What known sins have you committed since our last meeting?
  2. What temptations have you met with?
  3. How were you delivered?
  4. What have you thought, said, or done, of which you doubt whether it be sin or not?
  5. Is there anything you desire to keep secret?

I Am Sorry

10 Thursday Jan 2008

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The book unChristian: What a New Generation Really Thinks about Christians… and Why it Matters has really stuck with me these past few days as is evident by this post and this post. I have found myself thinking about all of the people who are represented in the survey data that is presented in unChristian and I have found myself wishing that there were some way to let them all know that Christians are supposed to do better. I have found myself wanting to say that there are Christians who do truly love you where you are at. And I think this is true. I at least know that my faith tells me that Jesus loves you.

But in my anger and frustration at other Christians who have not loved people different than them well, I started to become uncomfortable and realized that I also have failed to love my neighbor as myself. Sometimes I ignore or don’t see others who are hurting. Sometimes it is hard for me to know how to love someone who is living a very different life than I think God would want them to live. But I agree with my friend Joseph’s comment in one of my previous posts that God has never asked me to show more love or grace to anyone else than God has already shown to me.

So, I want to say that I am sorry. I am sorry for my failure to love my neighbor as myself. If you have ever felt unloved by my actions or inactions I am sorry. I am without excuse, because my faith tells me to love my neighbor as much as I love myself.

I remember reading in one of Donald Miller’s books (I can’t remember which one it was… Blue Like Jazz?) that several Christians set up a booth on a college campus to confess their sins to others on campus. It was a powerful story and to me represents the kind of humility that Christians need to risk showing to others. This gave me an idea – If you have felt unloved or hurt by something a Christian has done to you, I would like to apologize to you. I want to tell you that I am sorry for the pain that you have felt. If you want to leave a comment with a specific way that you have been hurt or wronged, I would like to specifically apologize to you.

What We Can Learn from unChristian

09 Wednesday Jan 2008

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Christian love, love, love your neighbor, unChristian

Yesterday I posted some brief thoughts about unChristian: What a New Generation Really Thinks about Christianity… and Why it Matters by Kinnaman and Lyons. I had a light bulb moment this morning where it occurred to me that what the survey results that Kinnaman and Lyons report shows is that a very important question, maybe the most important question to young adults when they are interacting with others is: “Do you love me?”

A quick look at the list of negative attributes that are attributed to Christians (hypocritical, too focused on gaining converts, antihomosexual, sheltered, too political, and judgmental) shows that a unifying theme is that young adults feel like Christians do not love people who are different than they are. The question they are asking the church is: “Do you love me?” And the answer they are telling us that they are hearing is a resounding “No!” For me this is a powerful realization for two reasons:

  • Because I think there is a lot of truth to it. Christians often are not good at really loving people who are different than they are. We often aren’t even good at loving other Christians from different backgrounds. (One of the most harsh and unloving reactions I have ever had came from a conversation I tried to start with a Christian from another tradition where I was trying to learn more about the differences between us. I am not saying that I was perfect and blameless, but I felt ridiculed, disrespected, and unloved.)
  • The second reason this is a powerful realization is because Jesus commanded us to Love God and love our neighbor. And I think he actually meant it. Jesus did not say love God and people who think and live just like you do. He said love God and love the other people I created in my image.

I think that coming to actually love people who are different than us is one of the biggest challenges facing the church. If we do not love other people, no matter how they are living, we are disobeying the commands of Christ and we are not living out our faith. If that is the case, no wonder people aren’t bursting through our doors wanting what we have. Why would anyone want to join a group that they feel hates, despises, or looks down on them?

“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and first commandment. You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.”

My those who call themselves followers of Jesus Christ go and do this.

Understanding the Quadrilateral

02 Wednesday Jan 2008

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Book Review, Methodism, Quadrilateral, Wesleyan theology

I just finished a book that I wish I had read before writing my ordination papers: Wesley and the Quadrilateral: Renewing the Conversation. This book has essays by Wesley scholars W. Stephen Gunter, Scott J. Jones, Ted A. Campbell, Rebekah L. Miles, and Randy L. Maddox. Gunter is the editor with Jones writing about Scripture, Campbell tradition, Miles reason, and Maddox experience. If you have not read this book and you are a Methodist pastor you need to read this book. If you have heard the phrase “Wesleyan Quadrilateral” and wondered what the heck it meant, you need to read this book. If you already think you know what the Quadrilateral is all about, you still need to read this book.

Here are a few quick quotes from the conclusion:

There is an underlying premise in our chapter on Scripture, and it would read like this: If United Methodists generally speaking have interpreted The Book of Discipline to mean the Scripture are our foundational and primary authority in theology, faith, and practice, we have not done a very good job of making this clear to our constituencies (131).

The temptation to total skepticism that is implied when we recognize the “conditionedness” of our knowledge through experience is usually avoided for a very practical reason: it is not viable to be a total skeptic. What is common among us is to invoke the perspectival nature of mediated experience as a preemptive shield: “That is only your perspective. I am entitled to my own!” While Wesley did not hear this particular modern response in his day, he does potentially provide a way through the impasse — he continually exhorted the early Methodists about the importance of “Christian conference,” specifically for nurturing the lives of holiness and for deciding debated issues in theology. No one person’s perspective was to be privileged over another’s, and the collective perspective of all gave the advantage of a mutually arrived at conclusion. (137-138)

These are just some quotes that spoke to things I have been thinking about. But this book does an excellent job of explaining what Wesley would have meant by Scripture, tradition, reason, and experience; and how Methodists ought to use these tools today. Simply a wonderful book.

Don’t Forget to Give to Jesus!

20 Thursday Dec 2007

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It was my responsibility to give the Children’s Sermon last Sunday in worship. I wrestled with what to talk to them about. I always find Christmas to be a bit of an awkward time to talk to the children, because I have such great memories of Christmas, but my memories are mostly based on the gospel of consumerism, not the gospel of Christ. So, I sometimes struggle with finding helpful ways to talk to young people about the “true meaning of Christmas.”

Last week I decided to read a passage of Scripture to them and share a story. The Scripture passage I read was Matthew 2:1-2, 9-12 which is about the magi visiting Jesus and bringing him gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh. I asked them what happened in the story. (I was very impressed with how much they got out of the story, they recounted almost every detail.) I asked questions trying to get them to come to a realization that I had during the week that was the motivation for this Children’s Sermon: the magi gave gifts to Jesus, not to each other.

It is interested that the secular meaning of Christmas has become a time to give gifts to other people (and of course receive gifts too!) It seems to me that gifts play two roles in Scripture. First, Jesus is God’s gift to the world. We have all received the gift of the incarnate God sent to save us. Second, the people who recognized this gift for what it was brought gifts to Jesus in worship and thanksgiving.

So, I am coming to a deeper appreciation of the Little Drummer Boy’s struggle: what gift can I bring to Jesus? I have spent more time worrying about and thinking about how what gifts to give to my family and friends. But, in working on a children’s sermon I was reminded that I need to first make sure to receive the gift anew that has been given to me, the gift of God’s loving presence. And then it may be that I need to put more thought into how I will respond to that gift than to any other gift that I give.

I hope and pray that my very life is becoming the gift that I am offering to Jesus in worship and thanksgiving. What gift are you giving to Jesus this Christmas?

Newkirk UMC Fire

18 Tuesday Dec 2007

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Newkirk Fire

Originally uploaded by deeplycommitted

Newkirk United Methodist Church caught fire around 4:30am this morning. The fire resulted in a total loss of the church, as is obvious from this picture. Newkirk UMC is in the Oklahoma Conference of the UMC. Please join with me in prayer for Rev. Jim Hollifield and the community of faith in Newkirk, Oklahoma. The sign in front of the church reads, “Every Day Gives You Another Chance.” May God bring new life out of this tragedy.

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